Tomorrow we take our five-hour birthing class at the birthing center where we learn all about the natural birth process. I know so many women have natural births and I am going to give it my all to do it, but man oh man, I am anxious about the whole thing.
I tend to have a much higher tolerance for emotional pain than I do physical. To be honest, I am such a baby when it comes to being hurt or in pain. I complain if my back aches, am over dramatic about a hangnail and cry when I stub my toes. Haha, how am I going to give birth naturally?
I have stayed quiet about my career as a school psychologist for several reasons, but the main reason is I just wasn't ready to share about it because it's been a lot for me to process.
Since becoming a psychologist in the public sector I have watched myself give more than I have, lost faith in the systems that we call public education, special education, and social services and, when it boils down to it, I have experienced depersonalization, compassion fatigue, secondary trauma and burnout.
he other day I was desperate for some guidance after two long days of having tantrum after tantrum with Winter. Even though I have a background in child development and child psychology, raising your own kid can bring on doubt and insecurities. So, I asked you guys to tell me what parenting books you loved and I was blown away by the responses and insight.
This community really rocks!!!
I figured, if it helped me so much, it might help another mama or papa out there. So I have rounded up the top book recommendations tried and true by the Love & LaRock community.
The other day, I had the opportunity to work with some really amazing creatives to do a styled shoot.
Together they created a Mexico-inspired look and honestly, I have never felt more beautiful.
Perry and I got engaged in Oaxaca, Mexico and we both feel so connected and in awe of their culture. We feel like our love story really began in Mexico, so I wanted to honor our love by doing a shoot with a Mexican flare.
Who here is an avid Amazon shopper? I know my family gets a ton of products from here and I wanted to start a new series that shows you what we purchase and use on a monthly basis. You will find a vast array of things from clothes, kitchen and houseware, health + beauty products and more. The post will cover items for the entire family! I hope you enjoy the round-up and stay tuned for next month's post!!!
Hello, 3rd trimester. I am having so much fun thinking about how close I am to meeting this little nugget. The other day on Instagram I ran a fun little contest to see if anyone could guess the name. I was blown away by how many of you entered and got it right. If you are in the need for some gender neutral names, seriously check out the post. So many amazing ideas. So the hints were: The baby's name is gender neutral and it has to do with imagination. The top ten guesses were as follows: Wonder, Art, Charlie, Story, Jude, Lennon, Phoenix, Bowie and London. One of those names is in fact the baby's name but we aren't revealing which one just yet. :)
The hard truth is that women who've experienced postpartum depression in the past have a 50% chance of getting it again in subsequent pregnancies. I really hate this statistic. As silly as it sounds, when I think about the risk factors of postpartum depression with baby #2 I begin to visualize a little man in the clouds doing a coin toss in the delivery room to determine my fate saying, "May the odds ever be in your favor".
I know it may sound weird but every so often when I write letters to Winter and Perry I also write them to myself. I find it so necessary to document where I am in each stage of life, and to be able to go back to these little letters of encouragement in order to read on the days when my self-worth is fleeting, "Terra, you are enough." I encourage you to join me and write yourself a You Are Enough letter. They can be very powerful.
I am not sure if I could ever articulate the beautiful child that I see when I look into your eyes. In the last week I haven't been spending as much time with you, yet I still feel like you are with me all the time. I feel so lucky to be able to walk downstairs and work on my creative projects all while being able to hear your sweet voice and laugh as you play with the nanny. This gift of summer has really been so good for the soul, for both mine and yours. You are developing a relationship with other people, learning to trust them and welcoming them into your world.
I am in awe that I am nearly in my third trimester. The first part of this pregnancy seemed to go so slowly. I spent many days in bed or the couch wondering when I would start to feel better. Now that I have my energy back, I am staying super busy, and it seems as though I blink and the day has come and gone.
I have opened up a bit in stories regarding some anxiety I am experiencing. The first time I experienced anxiety during this pregnancy the feelings came on extremely strong complete with heart palpitations, shortness of breath and a full-blown panic attack.
Gosh, the days are flying by now that I am feeling better. I took advantage of this stretch of feel-good days by hiring us a nanny. Having one enables Perry and I the space to work uninterrupted by not having to juggle back and forth taking care of little Winter.
Perry and I really wanted to spend a few days alone before baby comes so we decided to extend a wedding vacation that we have coming up so that we can enjoy some time together, just the two of us. It really won't be long until it's the four of us. Eek!
Early on in the pregnancy we decided that for this baby we would try the midwife route at a birthing center. With Winter, we went to an OBGYN through Kaiser Permanente which meant that we would get whoever was on duty to deliver our child and not necessarily the doctor that we saw for office visits.
As a first time parent I wanted to be in a hospital because, quite frankly, I had no idea what to expect and was a bit scared of the entire process. Plus, I didn't know much about all of the options available for women.
Here is a teaser of Winter's Nursery Refresh. To see all the images and details, head to the feature on heymama co.'s website (HERE!).
Welcome to Winter’s room update with the wonderful new West Elm x Pottery Barn Kids collection. These two wonderful companies recently teamed up to create a beautiful nursery line that combines West Elm’s signature mid-century style with Pottery Barn Kids’ craftsmanship. I am so eager to show you guys this new line as I know you will love every piece of it.
This post was sponsored by Once Upon a Farm. As always, all thoughts and opinions are my own.
Ok, let’s talk mealtime. When I get asked what stresses me out the most about motherhood, the first thought that comes to mind is Winter’s picky eating habits. I have cried, lost sleep and put a lot of blame on myself because my child will literally eat ten things despite all of our efforts.
For our babymoon, Perry and I will be extending our vacation to California after we attend my childhood best friend's wedding. I am already getting antsy about packing swimsuits and started my search for some that would work for the bump but would also be cute even if you aren't pregnant. Below are my picks!
The other day I was staring at Winter wondering how in the world I was ever going to love another a child as much as her? I know, I know, everyone says that your heart expands with each child and that I can absolutely love more than one, but for that moment, it just seemed unfathomable.
Because it took a bit to get pregnant (9 months), I have been so focused on staying grateful for this pregnancy. Most days I am overwhelmed with gratitude, but I would be lying if I said that it was all happy thoughts.
I cannot believe that we are halfway through this pregnancy journey with baby #2. Yesterday we had an anatomy scan. The doctor that performed the scan was about to retire, yet his joy for seeing the baby was like he had just started his job. Seriously, he was the jolliest old man. He kept saying that he had never seen a baby smile so much and commenting about how cute the baby was. It made me even more excited for this baby to come. Winter and Perry went to the appointment, and it was so lovely to hear Winter talk about what she saw on the screen and ask questions about her baby brother or sister. We feel so blessed to know that this baby is healthy.
Yesterday on Instagram Stories, I shared three dress silhouettes that I am loving while pregnant. I am slowly building my closet full items that I can wear now while pregnant as well as afterward during the postpartum phase. I think it is so essential to be comfortable yet still feel that you're able to express your personality while pregnant. Below is a roundup categorized into the three dress silhouettes that I tried on + a few more options that I am currently loving. Happy shopping!
Winter is quite the busy body and I have really enjoyed watching her interests grow. I know it can be overwhelming to find toys that your little one will engage in and it's hard to know what to buy. I figured it wouldn't hurt to put together a list of what Winter currently loves in case your on the hunt for some new toys + activities.
I met a beautiful stranger at Panera Bread the other night. He was a regional manager who was training a young teenager on the cash register, and I happened to be the young boy's first customer. The manager was so sweet and ended up giving me a gift card for my next visit. We somehow ended up talking for 15 minutes about family and careers. He had adopted his brother's son at three months old (now five years old). He explained that when he got his son, he quit his six-figure job to focus on his new role. He conveyed that he hadn't known how honestly stressed he was and how his career was killing him slowly until he quit. I could relate in so many ways, and I was so thankful to be in his presence. He was a true example of selflessness and love.
Our 20-week appointment is coming up quickly. I have had a few DMs asking if I'd share about our decision to keep baby number two's gender a surprise. People often think we are nuts for not finding out. It literally drives my family members nuts. Especially my poor Mom.
I wrote about our decision to keep Winter's gender a surprise in her birth story (here). The story explains that when we were pregnant with Winter Perry had asked me to honor the most romantic request of our marriage thus far, the wish to wait to find out the gender until birth. You see, he was really wanting to find a way to connect to the baby. He commented on how amazing it was that I got to bond with the baby from conception and he too wanted to feel a part of that magic. He stated that he thought it would be super romantic if he were the one who presented our son or daughter, and it was such a sweet and sincere request, how could I possibly say no?
Mother's Day is right around the corner and I have put together the ultimate gift guide! Shop by genre or mix and match from them all! Categories include: Gifts for the Fashionista, for the Homebody, for the New Mom and for Sentimental Mom (which is totally me!) Happy almost Mother's Day, everyone!
I am really going to make it an effort to do these posts every single week. So if I miss a week, someone please remind me! I just think it’s such a great way to get to know you guys and fill you in on more of what I am up to.
Remember, in these Weekend Links posts there will always be a 'Question of the Week'. If you respond to it in the comments below you will be in the running to win something from me that I will mail to you as a token of my appreciation for reading the blog.
A few weekends ago, thanks to Alaska Airlines, I had the honor of going to San Francisco to visit my childhood best friend, mother-in-law, sister-in-law, and niece. I lucked out with the weather and spent most of my time walking. I must have walked 10+ miles a day. I was so worn out after the trip, like reallyyyyyy worn out. I spent the next two days after my trip in bed with a migraine and puking! I am so grateful that I had a few good days while there!
I have left Winter maybe twice in her 2.5 years of life, so it was definitely a strange feeling to not be with her for a few days. The first day I was gone from her I found that I was craving her in a sense. I missed holding her and hearing her talk. I was, however, able to ease into the trip a little more the second day and spent the rest of the time being more present.
Below is a little recap of where I went, what I ate and places I saw. San Francisco totally stole my heart, so if you get the opportunity to visit, I highly recommend it!
I am so excited that I am doing these bump updates. It will be fun to go through them one day with my son or daughter. I am so thankful to Brittany, the photographer for the blog, for capturing such beautiful imagery.
We shot this at a park in Denver that has this crazy castle-like structure. I climbed up on the wall and initially wanted to stand, but I was feeling a bit dizzy, so I sat and just enjoyed the views of the park. It was really relaxing.
This first trimester kicked my bootie! With Winter, I would get nauseous but was able to curb it with a ginger chew or a cracker. This time around, I had nausea all day long. The following roundup is all the products that I have tried and liked or that were recommended by you gals on one of my Instagram posts. I figured I would put them in one place, just in case you too are experiencing the first trimester yucks!
Our entire family was sick in February. Coughs, stuffy nose and more. As a parent, you feel so helpless when your little one is sick, and I am always looking for natural remedies to add to your medicine cabinet. Today I am reviewing DrKids HIMASAL - Natural Nasal Saline Solution made with Himalayan Salt.
It was designed to remove all the impurities found in the nasal cavities, offering nasal irrigation relief. It works by moistening the inside of the nasal cavity to loosen and soften thick or crusty mucus.